I was watching an interesting debate. The topic of the day was infidelity and is there ever a time when a person should be forgiven for cheating. The debate got somewhat heated. One woman stated, "A man should never cheat no matter what and if he does you have to get rid of him." One of the men that she was debating with asked a legitimate question, letmedate.com review he said "If he's a good man other than one infidelity issue, do you still leave him?" She said, "Yes, because if he cheated, he's not a good man!" The woman at the heart of this debate just so happened to be a busy career woman. A career woman who admitted that she hadn't "cooked" for her husband in months!
Now let's look at this situation
rationally and I am one who loves to use analogies in order to create a vivid
picture which can sometimes makes complex things seem simple to understand. I
think that it is never fine to cheat. However, I believe that some spouses can
make conditions favorable in their life whereby their significant other will
stray. What do I mean by that? It's sort of like when you hear the weatherman
say, "Conditions are favorable for rain. If warm air rises to a certain
level and the temperature cools off to a certain degree and the water in the
clouds condense, then rain will fall." That's sort of how relationships
are; you can put certain conditions letmedate.com in your
relationship that will make your love life go very wrong for you.
I don't like to use pets to make a
point about human beings, because as humans, we are on a much higher mental
functioning level. However, this is the very best analogy that I could think of
to further illustrate my point. It's as if you had a prized puppy in the
backyard and you didn't ever feed your puppy, you didn't put any water in his
water dish, and never went out to throw him/her a frisbee. Meanwhile, your
neighbor, was putting out fresh water every day, right next to your fence! The
neighbor is placing gourmet puppy food in a bowl next to the fence. The
neighbor is even reaching over the fence to pet your puppy every now and then.
Yet you think your prized pup should remain loyal to you, no matter what!
Really?
Now let's be logical. Given the
circumstances, just how long do you think that it would take before eventually,
your puppy would either dig a hole underneath the fence or scale the fence to
get what it's starving for? The fact of the matter is that you've made
conditions favourable letmedate for him to
scale the fence or dig underneath. Does that make your dog a bad dog, for
wanting human affection; eating when he's hungry, and drinking when he's
thirsty? Should you drop him off at the animal shelter for doing so? I think
not!
Is it right for someone male or
female to cheat on their spouse? No, it's never alright to cheat. But before
you do something as harsh as getting rid of them for an indiscretion, examine
the facts first. You don't have to be honest with anybody other than yourself.
Do you bear any responsibility in your significant other's straying? Are you
making it hard for your spouse to co-exist with you by starting an argument
every time you see them?
Do you really know what marriage
is? Your spouse is your significant other, not your child. Don't deceive
yourself, by thinking that your significant other is going to do everything
that you tell them to do. I'm pretty sure that they didn't do everything that
their parents told them to do when they were growing up. To behave for a spouse
better than they did for their parents would be disrespectful to their parents.
You're your spouse's partner, not their parent and if you confuse your role in
their life, you're asking for problems and problems will surely come.
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